How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship in a Marriage?

It’s a mystery what makes a man or a woman fall in love with each other, and I guess it will remain so, but the euphoria of that moment is just magical, and mere words cannot explain it.

When the cupid stuck an arrow, the blank mind soon fills itself with loads of emotional thoughts, and the heart keeps on yearning for the person in everything. But the joy fades away, and the magic disappears when the same person ties the knot and stays with you forever. We are witnessing several divorce cases are increasing day by day. So, what could be the possible reasons for such heartbreaks? And why relationships are now crumbling like a house of cards?

Here are a few reasons that I felt possibly be the reason behind the death of any relationship.

Well, what I believe is two T’s and one M are the main culprits

Whereas the two T’s stands for time and technology,” M” stands for money. When time, technology, and money manage to become more powerful than us, creeping slowly in our rooms, it makes the crack possible in a relationship, but it’s not their fault. The fault is ours; we are making them as our lordship. We are surrendering ourselves to technology and money. Instead of controlling them, we are allowing them to control us.

How to keep your relationship breathing till the end ?

1. Respect each other: Everyone in this world has the right to live respectfully—bullying, imposing something forcefully, or criticizing leads to stirring poison in a relationship. So, respect each other’s feelings and decisions.

• Spend time: Take some time from your daily routine to spend with your spouse. It helps in understanding your partner better way.

• Stay away from ego: Ego is that termite who can eat away any relationship. So, never allow its clout over your relationship. Whenever you have a hard time, think of the good times that you have spent together. Initiate to apologize.

• Give space: Don’t restrict or interfere with each comfort zone unless it’s not harmful. No one wants prison for themselves. Many relationships have shattered because their spouse tries to control them.

• Please do not give up your social life: I have seen many once they get engaged or got married; they isolate themselves and limit themselves to social boundaries. But it may hurt your relationship in the long run. Being in a different company helps in diverting our minds more healthily, making us happy, and a pleasing mind always gives birth to a happy relationship.

• Always open for communication: Know the timing on when to talk. Don’t jump into the arguments straight away. Take time, let the storm settle down, take a walk, or divert your mind to something else; talk when your body and your mind are entirely in your control.

• Divide your work and manage the stress: Most of the time, one person takes baggage of tasks, which creates stress. Try to distribute the work and help each other in everything.

• Trust each other: Trust is the foundation stone, and later on becomes the pillar of your relationship, a small crack in the wall may lead to a big gap. Try to fill the dent and never allow doubts to make its own space; distrust germinates misinterpretations and gradually eats your healthy relationship.

• Unconditional love: Love has no boundaries, so never decide where to limit it. Accept your partner’s faults. Not everyone is perfect, and no one can be meticulous in everything. Everyone has some loopholes. If you keep on poking on that, it will leave painful wounds, and healing will be difficult.

1. Try to see things from others’ point of view: There are two sides of a coin; always try to see the other side also while making any decisions. What seems blurry to you may have a clear picture.

1. Never compare with others: Many relations germinate fights due to social media or by comparing others as an example. Everyone is different, and the happy faces on Facebook, Instagram, or any other social media usually have a dark side in reality.

A relationship is like a rubber band. If you stretch it too much more than its limit, it will break. Try to keep it stable.